Be willing to let go

Personal change is a process, and in order for you to transform into the person that you are truly meant to be, you need to be willing to let go of things that no longer serve your higher purpose or your greater good. I realize that you’re probably cringing at this point, maybe thinking to yourself that you’ve already been through so much, or have already lost so much, so why in the hell should you have to give up even more? The answer is simple: in order for you to become who you are meant to be, you have to shed what no longer works in your life and what no longer fits. You need to shed the outer skin of who you used to be in order for the real you to come through.

So, you ask, what does this mean for me?  Well, it means different things for different people but could include a variety of things such as eliminating negative self-talk, letting go of self-imposed labels, stop beating on doors that aren’t meant to be opened to you, cutting out junk food, alcohol, or maybe even friends that aren’t good for you, quitting smoking, or leaving a job that’s causing you to die on the inside a little bit every day. You have to figure out what this means for you and take steps to release these negative influences.

This is a process as well. I’m not saying that I want you to make a list of everything that seems negative right now and within twenty-four hours eliminate these things from your life. What I’m saying is that as you go through your evolutionary process of healing and rebuilding your life, you will feel, in your heart, what feels good and what doesn’t feel good. Pay attention to what brings you down and what elevates your spirit.

If you love fast food but feel comatose after eating it, chances are that’s your body telling you that it needs food that is healthier. If you’re out with friends who love to drink and party until the sun comes up, and you feel disengaged and out of place, that’s your spirit telling you that you’ve outgrown that type of behavior. Just pay attention to your intuition and follow your heart.

One thing that I do every night as I go to bed is to say a little prayer that goes like this: Dear God, please help me identify the things in my life that no longer serve my higher purpose, and please help me gracefully let go of these things. Amen. You can create your own mantra like this, and it could be directed to the Universe, or to your Guardian Angels, or to whatever higher power you believe in. The point is, recognize what’s not working for you, and be willing to let it go.